Archive | January, 2018

New Year resolution 2018

1 Jan

“Our brain is trained to develop habits,” says psychoanalyst Hans-Werner Rückert and I find that it’s true, it’s work for me!
I recently finished the book Better Than Before  and I learned a lot about habits and personality (I don’t want to spoiler nothing about this amazing book that I vividly recommend). Why is it so hard to stick to a New Year’s resolution? Because we don’t now ourselves very best like Gretchen write “We won’t make ourselves more creative and productive by copying other people’s habits, even the habits of geniuses; we must know our own nature, and what habits serve us best.” (sometimes we pretend to know exactly what we are…but I think it’s a continuous discovery) and we set up top high expectation about us and we need to set a goal that is actually achievable in the time frame we set for ourselves.
This also means being realistic with yourself and taking a hard, long look in the mirror. “Resolutions require changes in behavior, and most of us don’t want to face that there is often a laundry list of changes to make,” says Alabama-based clinical psychologist Josh Klapow. “So pick one you have confidence in and stick with it. It is far better to succeed at a smaller, more manageable resolution than to fail at a larger, loftier one.”
Sometimes it’s lack of honesty: are we truly committed to running a marathon, losing weight, or whatever else we are committing to do? Be honest with ourselves it’s the first step!! Oftentimes we find ourselves committing to things because we think we should or friends and family want. My suggestion) Don’t waste your time with that. You will only be disappointed in yourself. Make resolutions you actually want to achieve because you really want to and are actually going to put a plan of action towards.
I used this strategy:
1) I set myself goals to be reached within a specific period of time.
2) I imagined the best possible results these goals will bring to me.
3) I considered all the things which might deter myself from attaining these results.
4) I written down my goals on a piece of paper
new year resolution
I will suggest you this audio program from ABC and remember “The most important step is the first step. All those old sayings are really true. Well begun is half done. Don’t get it perfect, get it going. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Nothing is more exhausting than the task that’s never started, and strangely, starting is often far harder than continuing.” like Gretchen said.

Happy New Year to everyone!!!!

 

 

 

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