Archive | December, 2013

Wild Geese

26 Dec

You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees

For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your bodylove what it loves.

Tell me about your despair, yours,

and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and

the clear pebbles of the rainare moving across the landscapes,

over the prairies and the deep trees,

the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese,

high in the clean blue air,

are heading home again.

Whoever you are,

no matter how lonely,t

he world offers itself to your imagination,

calls to you like the wild geese,

harsh and exciting –over and over announcing your placein the family of things.

 

by Mary Oliver

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Maybe all your Christmases weren’t white

21 Dec

In my memory, Christmas was always a relaxed and carefree time filled with endless visits from family and friends, delicious aromas and plates full of various treats devoured under the twinkling bottom branches of a tree cut from my grandparents’ woods. It always snowed and we always laughed lots.

But the reality was, someone was probably busy to the point of exhaustion behind the scenes, making sure presents were bought and wrapped, food was prepared and the endless needs of the littlest kids were being met. It couldn’t have been easy shopping, much less paying for, gifts for everyone in my sprawling family and there may have been other issues I was blissfully unaware of. And it probably didn’t always snow – more likely it was a good old Michigan slush.

My point is: try not to live up to some impossible standard that probably doesn’t reflect the situation as it actually was. There’s a lot to be said for simplicity. There’s even more to be said for getting to the new year rested, relaxed and financially solvent.

Written on 12/17/2013 by Laura Potts

Forgive yourself

17 Dec

…It’s all good. Really.

We’re human and we live a little sometimes.

Enjoy yourself, have fun, balance it out with some extra self care, and let it go.

Most of our post-indulgence suffering comes from wishing we hadn’t done it.

So breathe, release yourself from any guilt, and get yourself outside for some fresh air…

Relax your inhibitions

13 Dec

Why do people feel more creative when they’re drunk, when it’s late at night, or taking drugs?

Because they’re inhibitions are lowered

and they allow themselves to see combinations they’d otherwise ignore.

I’m-Sorry-Syndrome

11 Dec

How often do the words I’m sorry spill out of your mouth? If you’re a woman, you’re likely to apologize way more than your male counterparts.

Research from the University of Waterloo, Canada showed that in a controlled group of men and women, women apologized far more frequently. Not just that, but the women felt more things warranted an apology than their male counterparts. Our very perception of what merits an apology is so different than men’s!

Far more subtle and insidious than the simple I’m-Sorry-Syndrome is an apologizing mindset where women apologize for who they are, how they look, what they want, and the choices they make.

Here are a few things women need to stop apologizing for:

1. Apologizing for our bodies

At any given time, 53% of 13 year-old girls are unhappy with their bodies. That number increases to 78% by age 17. What was meant to be our biggest, most loyal friend has become an unworthy foe that needs to be starved, stuffed, treated, plucked, dyed, tanned in order to fit with an unrealistic ideal. By disengaging with our bodies or by trying to contort it to look a certain way, we are destroying the very foundation of our Goddess nature.

For us to experience our real authentic self, we need to have a deep and loving relationship with our body. Not one where we fight and work against it, but where we tune in to her needs, her wisdom, so she can serve us well, point us in the right direction and keep us healthy and happy.

2. Apologizing for aging

I once saw a juxtaposed image of two famous Hollywood celebrities in a magazine. One was a man, one was a woman, and they were both 31 years old. The male celebrity looked like normal 31 year-olds do: He had lines around his mouth and crow’s feet around his eyes. The female looked 10 years younger—not because she was naturally baby-faced, but because she’d obviously had work done.

According to Global Industry Analysts, the anti-aging products market will reach almost $300 billion by 2015. Undeterred by the global economic crises, this industry keeps growing, fueled by women’s insecurities about themselves. What is fundamentally wrong with a woman who looks her age, be it 30 or 65? She talks, she laughs, and she frowns and cries. What is the problem if life’s experiences begin to reflect on her face? Can we relax into this process and actually celebrate it?

3. Apologizing for our achievements

A study at the Aston University, UK found women were four times more likely than men to be self-deprecating, use humor, and speak indirectly or apologetically when broaching difficult subjects with board members in order to avoid conflict. Women are also much more likely to downplay their achievements when building resumes than men are.

The whole sky

8 Dec

Even After All this time

The Sun never says to the Earth,

“You owe me.”

Look What happens

With a love like that,

It lights the whole sky.

حافظ

Khwāja Šams ud-Dīn Muhammad Hāfez-e Šīrāzī, or simply Hāfez (Persian: خواجه شمس‌الدین محمد حافظ شیرازی), was a Persian mystic and poet. He was born sometime between the years 1310 and 1337. John Payne, who has translated the Diwan Hafez, regards Hafez as one of the three greatest poets of the world. His lyrical poems, known as ghazals, are noted for their beauty and bring to fruition the love, mysticism, and early Sufi themes that had long pervaded Persian poetry. Moreover, his poetry possesses elements of modern surrealism.

Circular travels

1 Dec

“We know that attention acts as a lightning rod.
Merely by concentrating on something one causes endless analogies to collect around it, even penetrate the boundaries of the subject itself: an experience that we call coincidence, serendipity – the terminology is extensive. My experience has been that in these circular travels what is really significant surrounds a central absence, an absence that, paradoxically, is the text being written or to be written.”

Julio Cortázar, Around the Day in Eighty Worlds