“People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim.
What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked…
The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on…
There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction, and a white lie is the blackest of all.”
― Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
It’s a blend of two things.
“I’d really like to help you,” and, “If this isn’t for you, that’s okay, there are others it might be a better match for.”
Generosity, not arrogance. Problem-solving, not desperation. Helpfulness, not selfishness.
Being labeled a quitter is a 1950s attitude and should have stayed in that era.
Today the world moves pretty fast. It shifts in the blink of an eye.
Forcing yourself to stay with something that is not working today can be one of the worst things you can do.
Edison, Einstein, Jobs and thousands of other success stories failed innumerable times before they succeeded.
So be smart and don’t be afraid to move on. That can often be the best thing you ever did. Realizing when it is time to move on is not being a quitter. It’s being smart.
If you’re good, if you’re smart, you will change. That’s life.
Yet all too often, letting go is not the hard part. Realizing you have let go is the hard part.
Before you can move on, you need to realize you have already let go.
It’s scary because you have nothing to hold on to.
But only when you can admit to yourself that you’ve let go are you truly free.
When you do that, you can watch the stress and the weight fall away.
Then you can smile to yourself that you have grown.
Whatever challenge you’re facing right now will either stretch you or break you.
Most people allow situations and relationships to break them.
But it’s because they don’t believe they have a choice.
We must accept our situations completely, with honesty, knowing there is a lesson in there some where.
The decision to seek this lesson fearlessly is what will either determine whether you grow and thrive—or fall into a depression, addictions, live with anger and resentment and feel hopeless and less than.
Resisting will always break you.
Acceptance—practicing forgiveness, love, and gratitude—will always stretch you.
Too many of us waste time worrying over things that might happen in the future.
This is counter-productive because even if those bad things do happen, you won’t be any better prepared for them just because you spent all that time worrying.
If they don’t happen—which is more likely—you’ll have wasted all that time fretting over nothing.
Another depressing time-waster is dwelling on the past.
We all have regrets, but we can’t go back in time and correct our mistakes.
The present is all we have, so enjoy it while you can
I’ve apparently been the victim of growing up, which apparently happens to all of us at one point or another.
It’s been going on for quite some time now, without me knowing it.
I’ve found that growing up can mean a lot of things. For me, it doesn’t mean I should become somebody completely new and stop loving the things I used to love. It means I’ve just added more things to my list.
Like for example, I’m still beyond obsessed with the winter season and I still start putting up strings of lights in September. I still love sparkles and grocery shopping and really old cats that are only nice to you half the time.
I still love writing in my journal and wearing dresses all the time and staring at chandeliers.
But some new things I’ve fallen in love with — mismatched everything. Mismatched chairs, mismatched colors, mismatched personalities.
I love spraying perfumes I used to wear when I was in high school. It brings me back to the days of trying to get a close parking spot at school, trying to figure out how to avoid doing or saying anything uncool, and wishing every minute something crazy and out of reach like that. 😉
I love the freedom of living alone, but I also love things that make me feel seven again. Back then naivety was the norm and skepticism was a foreign language, and I just think every once in a while you need fries and a chocolate milkshake and your mom.
I love picking up a cookbook and closing my eyes and opening it to a random page, then attempting to make that recipe.I’ll never go a day without thinking about our memories together.
There will never be a better time to write.
For all you know, you may not have another day of life to live beyond today.
If it matters, you’ll make time to write.
Because you are doing exactly what you really want to do with your life.
Make A Living Writing by Carol Tice